Summer Custody Agreements: Because Co-Parenting Doesn’t Take a Summer Break

Summer’s coming in hot, literally and emotionally. The kids are dreaming of pool days and popsicles, while parents in shared custody situations are bracing for a new level of “Who’s got the kids when?” chaos. Whether you’re a seasoned co-parent or just navigating your first summer break post-separation, here’s your no-stress (okay, less-stress) guide to making summer custody agreements work without turning into a courtroom drama. 

1. Summer is NOT business as usual. 

During the school year, your parenting plan might be on cruise control: weekdays with one parent, alternating weekends, maybe a midweek dinner. But summer flips the script. With no school bells, no homework, and a lot more free time, flexibility is key. 

That’s why many parenting plans include a “summer schedule” which is a temporary timesharing arrangement that overrides the school year routine. 

What that might look like: 

• Two-week blocks alternating between parents 

• Extended time with the non-primary parent 

• Adjustments for summer camps, vacations, or grandma’s house 

Pro Tip: If your current plan doesn’t spell this out, it’s time to get one in writing before the last day of school. 

 2. Vacation plans? Share early and share often. 

Your week-long cruise to the Bahamas won’t go over well if the other parent finds out two days before takeoff. Most agreements require advanced notice (think 30 to 60 days) before taking the kids out of town. 

Even if it’s just a road trip to Grandma’s, give clear: 

• Dates 

• Locations 

• Contact info 

• Travel details 

And don’t forget unless your agreement says otherwise, you usually can’t take the kids out of the country without written permission from the other parent. 

3. Be flexible but don’t be a doormat. 

Summer’s meant to be fun. That might mean bending a little by swapping weekends, adjusting pickup times, or agreeing to extra sleepovers with cousins. But there’s a big difference between being flexible and being walked all over. 

If you agree to changes, do it in writing (text or email works). This helps avoid confusion and keeps everyone on the same page, especially when memories get fuzzy by August. 

4. What if one parent doesn’t follow the plan? 

Unfortunately, not everyone plays fair. If the other parent is: 

• Keeping the kids beyond their scheduled time 

• Blocking your summer vacation 

• Refusing to respond about plans 

You might need to involve your attorney, or even file a motion to enforce or modify the agreement. Don’t wait until summer’s halfway over to take action. The sooner you act, the better your chances of preserving your time. 

5. Keep the kids first, ALWAYS. 

Kids thrive on structure, and summer already tosses their routines out the window. Co-parents who can work together (or at least communicate like grown-ups) make the summer smoother and more fun for everyone. 

Ask yourself: 

• Are the kids getting quality time with both parents? 

• Are their summer interests (camp, sports, sleepovers) being prioritized? 

• Are you modeling peaceful conflict resolution? 

Even if you and your ex can’t agree on anything else, agree on this: your kids deserve a drama-free summer. 

Parenting Plan Power Moves: 

• Summer Schedules Are Different Your school-year parenting plan may not apply during summer. Make sure your agreement includes a summer-specific schedule or work with the other parent to create one in advance. 

• Plan Vacations Early Give written notice (usually 30–60 days) before taking kids on vacation. Include dates, locations, and contact details (especially for out-of-state or international trips). 

• Get Changes in Writing Flexibility is helpful, but always confirm schedule changes via text or email to avoid confusion and protect your rights. 

• Act Quickly if There Are Issues  If the other parent violates the agreement by withholding time or refusing to cooperate, take action early through legal channels if necessary. 

• Put the Kids First Prioritize consistency, fun, and your children’s emotional well-being. Co-parenting peacefully sets the tone for a smoother summer. 

• Legal Help is Available  If you need to modify, enforce, or clarify a summer custody arrangement, don’t hesitate. A family law attorney can help you protect your time and your kids’ best interests. 

Need help modifying or enforcing your summer custody agreement? At The Sherer Law Firm, we’re here to share the burden and carry the load. Because your peace of mind and your summer vacation matter. Book a Consultation Today!